EFS of Buying a Sex Toy


When discussing the process of buying a sex toy for the first time, three feelings come to mind: excitement, fear, and shame.  Why these three?

We will get into each one more in a moment but to answer your question quickly – excitement for trying something new, fear of not knowing what to buy, and shame for purchasing an item such as a sex toy in a judgmental society.  Sex toys have become increasingly popular!  You can sync them with your ipod, they are wireless, you can plug them into the wall so you don’t have to worry about batteries, and don’t even get me started on the shapes, sizes, and colors!  They are easily accessible to anyone, anywhere. First things first, we need to eliminate the mental stigma so you can thoroughly enjoy your shopping!


Sex toys are awesome! Sex is amazing but a great sex toy can take it to another level! A level you may not even be able to imagine until you experience it yourself.  Think about what made the idea of a sex toy pop in your head.  Was it something you heard?  Something you saw?  Something made it stick.  Something made you curious enough to find our post.

Take that curiosity and excitement and run with it.  Set yourself a budget and go to town!  There are people who love sex toys so much, they get paid to review them!  Seriously!  This is a new opportunity, a new take on an old habit, a chance to experience something you have always been hesitant of trying.  Like getting into a cold swimming pool on a hot day, just close your eyes and dive in!


The first thing to do is take a deep breath and relax.  The police will not show up at your door because you are looking for vibrators on Wicked Butterfly.  Loosen up and enjoy the ride when shopping for a sex toy. Second, decide what kind of sex toy you want to try.  Yes, this is where a lot of fear and paranoia begins.  We have over 23,000 products so yes – we are aware there is A LOT out there.  Start small, try an egg or a bullet to see if you like the feeling of something vibrating on the outside of you (and both are small enough that if you decide to try them internally – you can).  You can also go with a simple slim vibrator or a dildo to see if you even like the feeling.

Not sure what texture, color, size, brand to buy – just ask!  We are the experts and we are here to help you.  Shopping for a sex toy doesn’t have to create an anxiety attack! Yes, each toy has its unique and peculiar function to help you reach an orgasm.  Just know it is perfectly normal for one to have a lot of questions and doubts when buying a sex toy. Everyone has distinct insecurities and fears relating to sex toys (buying and/or using). These stigmas are easy to overcome.

For some it has more to do with trading one for another – the fear of preferring a toy to a human being. Some believe only another person should bring you to an orgasm. Individuals fearing they may become numb to the human touch, rendering them to only be able to have an orgasm with a sex toy. Others feel threatened by their partner reaching an orgasm (or more intense orgasm) with a sex toy. Psychologist Carol Rinkleib Ellison, Ph.D. says “I always tell men, ‘No, no, no, don’t worry. A sex toy can’t cuddle; a sex toy can’t kiss; it can’t give you compliments. But it can add orgasmic intensity for a woman by stimulating key erogenous zones that a man doesn’t always find or doesn’t always know exist, such as the U-spot, the G-spot, the A-spot, the perineum, all of these areas that are highly sensitive for women.”


The shame and embarrassment to fulfilling your own sexual desires is becoming a thing of the past (thankfully).  We as a society are still judgmental; however, as our focus continuously changes (depending on the season and the media influence) we find ourselves losing interest to what people are doing in their bedrooms.  The idea of online shopping has been a huge benefit in eliminating this as well.  No longer do we have to go behind the black curtain at our local video stores to find an adult film.  Our cars won’t be spotted in front of the local adult toy store (as we walk out in shades, a hat, and a trench coat in 90 degree weather). Thank you online retailers for making this one easy to resolve!

About Wicked Butterfly

At the Wicked Butterfly, our goal is to intrigue, entice, seduce, and conquer the needs and wants of our clients. From Lingerie to Adult - we cover every base needed to guarantee a home run evening! We carry thousands of items in our store and are constantly adding to our collection. Browse our catalog, visit us on the web, like us, follow us, share us - we don't mind. We hope to always be your "go to" for any and all desires imagined.

Posted on June 29, 2016, in Shopping Tips and tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.

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