History 101: BDSM

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What does it for you?  What really gets your engine fired up and the juices flowing (believe or not…we mean that it the least sexual way).  For some, it is a soft whisper in the ear, a smooth caress.  Others – a sexy piece of lingerie.  For a few, doing the housework!  For some of our best customers, bondage.

Whips, ball gags, restraints (including but not limited to handcuffs), blindfolds, hoods – the list goes on and on and the possibilities are endless.  So is this a recent trend, did we just start getting into the idea of dominating or being dominated?  Nope!  Let’s take a walk down memory lane.

When Wicked Butterfly was started, we wanted to recognize human variety, and try to cater to all needs. For some people, pleasure is obtained through dominance and/or submission. Before we tell you a bit about some of the products we carry that satisfy the S&M lifestyle, we at Wicked Butterfly wanted to give you a little history on the origins and psychology of the practice. Some food for thought, if you will!

The first thing to note about Sado Masochism is that those who practice it are not inherently damaged people. Studies done by the University of New South Wales showed that they were no more likely to have been sexually traumatized or anxious than a person who does not practice. In fact, according to the Archive of Sexual Behavior, S&M can bring two consenting adults more intimacy due to the practice.

S&M is named after the Marquis de Sade and Sacher-Masoch, both of whom wrote about violent erotic activities. Most of these activities were only his mind and involved non-consenting individuals, which makes the modern S&M community reject the idea that he is some kind of founding father of the practice. Marquis de Sade was known for abusing brothel workers and torturing non-desirous sex slaves. He was more of a sociopath than a practicer of S&M.

In 1886, S&M was labeled a disorder in Psychopathia Sexualis by Richard Krafft-Ebing. Krafft-Ebing was writing to book in order to categorize sexual proclivities. The fact of the matter is that social mores of the time insisted that this sort of sexual practice was not acceptable for the civilized person. Therefore, his categorization was not one that could be considered scientific by any means.

This diagnosis and categorization actually changed the way in which society looked at sexuality as a whole. It spurred the DSM, Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, which categorized all mental illnesses in general, and that included sexual leanings. Much later, homosexuality was categorized with mental disorders in the DSM. That changed in 1973.

S&M is still listed in the DSM. S&M is not considered a disorder in a general sense, but only if a person has proclivity for it and regrets that proclivity. Activists for the S&M cause have been fighting to get it removed from the DSM for some time. The stigma created by the DSM has persisted, and for many years practitioners were forced to hide in underground communities so as not be be persecuted. Today, it is beginning to gain momentum as a rising “Sexual Culture.” Eventually, the goal is the belief that any consensual sexual experience is considered normal.

If you are someone who enjoys the pleasures of S&M in your sexual life, we have products that will satisfy. Have you ever thought about a ball gag?

Or, for those extra naughty nights, try a naughty pair of cuffs.

We also have a ruler style paddle for a little role playing: 12″ Naughty Lil School Girl Ruler Paddle

If you just want to do a little teasing, we have a feather tickler for your enjoyment: Body Tickler Ostrich Feather

Whatever your tools of fancy, Wicked Butterfly carries them.

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About Wicked Butterfly

At the Wicked Butterfly, our goal is to intrigue, entice, seduce, and conquer the needs and wants of our clients. From Lingerie to Adult - we cover every base needed to guarantee a home run evening! We carry thousands of items in our store and are constantly adding to our collection. Browse our catalog, visit us on the web, like us, follow us, share us - we don't mind. We hope to always be your "go to" for any and all desires imagined.

Posted on March 2, 2016, in Did You Know and tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.

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